Boylove IS about the feelings, it's not about the actions, so if you can't control your sexual feelings, and don't allow the positive feelings of boylove to shine over the negative, and in turn you eventually act on those feelings, are you capable of calling yourself a boylover?

My first instinct is to reply to this with the question "sure, why not?". Such a reply would be quite deserved. What does whether you have sexual relations or not have to do with whether you love boys or not? Isn't it feasible that you would give in to temptation when the boy you are in love with asks you for something you've been wanting really badly to give him?

However, I'm not going to make that my primary reply because it ignores an even bigger flaw in the logic by which you support this inadequate definition. The flaw is that you take a black and white, good side vs bad side, positive vs negative approach to something that is far more complex than that. Sex is not a negative thing; it is a wonderful and positive act. You are assuming that sexual contact between a BL and his YF is always the result of the BL falling to some sort of temptation. Yet, this is simply not the case. There are many BL's who do not paint the world in the simple black and white pattern you propose here. There are BLs who view the physical expression of their love as something positive. Then there's also BL's who view sex as something neutral and frivolous that can be done for fun alone and is not worthy of the societal taboos attached to it.

What about the BL who is not a Christian and considers sexual relations an act of love? Is he no longer a boylover when he chooses to express his love for the boy he is in love with in a physical way?

What about the BL who is not a Christian and sees sex as something you can do just for fun? Is he not a BL any more because he chooses to play around with willing and eager boys?

Your definition of boylover presupposes a Christian world view where love = good and sex = bad and the two are separate.

I think it's incorrect to define a boylover by his actions since the term is one used to describe feelings and not actions. Whether a person has sexual contact with a boy or not in no way has any bearing on whether he is sexually attracted to and capable of falling in love with boys, which is what the definition of boylover is all about.