Re reading my post, I can see why you interpreted my post the way you did... but I think you missunderstood my intention.

I asked... "are you going to tell her about your BL?"

then later I encouraged Youth to be honest.... these two things were not meant to be related.

The first was a question and I wasn't giving advice on it.

The honesty I was encouraging in the second part was ... don't pretend to be attracted when your not. IE: to be honest about the feelings or lack there of that he has for the girl.... This is quite separate to any revelation about BL.

In response to your post Blackstone... I completely agree with you. You don't want a trail of exgirlfriends with that kind of knowledge over you.

Sorry about the confusing post.

Cat.