Ohhh this one hurts.

To come out or not to come out?.... Do I tell my church community about my attractions or not?

When I read an article like this... and think about the hysteria.... it makes me very cautious.

Hey anyone who has a criminal record of abusing others may need some firm boundaries, wheather the abuse was sexual or physical or whatever. In some cases for someone with extreem antisocial tendencies... congregational worship and activity just may not be the appropriate place for them.

I agree with your comment d on the not wanting limitations. Who wants to live under the shadow of "if we don't control you.. then you're a danger to this community". eeeekkkk.... that's my biggest fear in coming out. People being afraid of me... just becuase I have an attraction that makes them uncomfortable.

Well I understand this. We have a convicted child mollester in our church and as a parent I'm cautious with my kids around him. But I try and give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't hide my kids away from him and I treat him like I treat anyone else.

Its such a tough one... I am so not sure where I stand. But hey, if any community is to welcome people and give them second chances... it has to be the church surely... or else lets just pack up and go home now.

Blessings
Cat.