At first I was repulsed

Yeah, we get that a lot.

but all of you are people, and I don't believe you mean any harm

Most people never change their minds about pedophiles, no matter what we say. Kinda like the old joke, don't confuse me with the facts, my mind is made up.

Do you believe that if you hadn't been in a minor adult relationship as a child that you would have the attractions you do?

Since I was never in such a relationship, my answer would be yes, I believe I would still be a boylover. There may have been other things that contributed to what I became, but I have no idea what.

What advice would you give to someone who was victimized by a minor/adult relationship? (meaning the child was sexualized)

If this was recent, then tell a parent or other trusted adult. If this was well in the past, it depends on whether or not the incident(s) is/are causing problems. Counceling might be called for. However, I am not one who thinks counceling is always the answer. I know someone who was molested as a young teen. He is an adult now. After his mother found out what happened, she put him in counceling. He told me that the counceling messed him up way more than the molesting. He never thought the molesting was that big a deal. (A family friend masturbated him while he was "sleeping") But the councelors kept trying to make him believe things he didn't think were true, such as, the molester never really loved or liked him, he only wanted to "groom" him to be molested, etc. He said it was like they had this set of ideas that they held up like some holy grail, and if he didn't accept what they told him, then he wasn't making any progress in his counceling. He likened it to brainwashing.

Does your wife know how you feel? And if so how does she feel about it?

Not married.

Dakota