I saved that post too soon.

Re: post #160

You can't liken it to similar situations of heterosexual men controlling their urges around adult women, or homosexual men around other adult men for that matter. These people are consenting adults, are capable of handling themselves and conducting themselves appropriately, and are generally not naive enough to be susceptible to the kind of manipulation that kids are, the kind of thing that makes it easy for perverts to prey on them.

Perhaps a good analogy would be if I were in love with an emotionally immature, vulnerable, married woman or man, one who I could easily seduce. I have the occasion to spend a lot of time alone with this person doing non-romantic things, say, as part of our jobs.

I could "go after her" or I could say to myself "I love her and I see her relationship with her spouse is very important to her, therefore, I will never do anything to disrupt that relationship. I also see that my professional relationship is good for her as it is and I will never do anything to change that."

Is that a fair analogy? If not, what is missing?