I've come to think that there are NO biblical "grounds" for divorce.

Jesus' teaching in Matt 19 is "what God has joined togehter let no man separate"

By this standard marriage should not be separated by porn, adultry or any kind of unfaithfulness whatsoever.

If a marriage comes to divorce... Mosaic Law (which Jesus didn't contradict) permitted divorce... but this is not the biblical ideal.

I agree with CSL that reconciliation and forgiveness is the best option... and the one prescribed by Scripture...

However, practically speaking... someone can behave in a marriage in such a way as to do great damage to it and potentially destroy it.

If I had followed the biblical instructions on faithfulness and love on my part it would have meant that there really shouldn't have been anything to forgive in the first place.

Porn alone may not destroy a marriage... but porn plus lying... plus not being physically attracted to women... well the damage is done now... only time will tell how it all works out.

Blessings,
Cat.