I have been vigioursly reading scriptures in the last few days about marriage and thinking about it as a male who is not attracted to women at all.

Jesus in Matt 19 taught on the plan of God for marriage in terms of "what God has joined togehter let no man separate".

He sets a high standard for marriage as a one flesh permanent union between a man and a woman.... And He makes it the created order:
4"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'

In other words... God made them male and female and He made them this way intending for them to marry. This excludes any other alternative sexual relationship (boy/boy, boy/man, man/man, girl/girl, girl/woman, woman/woman).

Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 suggests that marriage is given in order to prevent sexual immorality (amongst other things).

Thus the Scriptural teaching is very simple and very clear... its not good for a man to be alone... so marry a woman and stay faithful with her forever.

If we want a companion... and we are sexually attracted to women... then we don't have a problem. Case closed.

But, what if we are not attracted to women?

Some of you guys say you are attracted to boys and women... I think if you are attracted to women and you can really enjoy a sexual relationship with one and give her all your passion... then boys will only be a distraction like any striaght guy will be distracted by other women.

If however, like myself, you are not attracted to women at all... then I think you have a problem.

I got married with no attraction to women.
I enjoyed sex with my wife... but it never was my passion. We (my wife and I) have now come to see that this has not been a good thing for us over the years. She can see that I have more passion for boys than I've ever had for her... and being a woman... she just can't compete with it. Of course I can never have a relationship with a boy like I have with her... but she sees the longing in my eyes and as much as I want to give it to her... well I just can't.

Further on in Matt 19, Jesus speaks about those who will not marry:
2For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.
Eunuchs hey... Well being Same Gender Minor Attracted is not a physical eunuch, in as much as I still have a functional penis... but, its functionality does depend on my thinking.... and my orientation.

Am I functionally a eunuch? I'm starting to beleive so.
The bit about being born that way or made that way... well I can relate to that too... either way... I didn't choose this sexuality... and God knows I've tried to change it.

It remains for me to ask... is there anyway I can give my wife all my passion in an undistracted manner?* In other words, can I love her pyhsicaly without wishing she was a boy? Or have I made one huge mistake.

Keep praying for us guys.
Cat.

*(note: I'm not talking about faithfulness here. Sure I can give her my faithfulness. ie: not have sex with anyone else).