9 "If my heart has been enticed by a woman,
or if I have lurked at my neighbor's door,

10 then may my wife grind another man's grain,
and may other men sleep with her.

11 For that would have been shameful,
a sin to be judged.

Job may be pre-all those things you mentioned but is this a principle worth considering nonetheless.... Absolute faithfulness is the righteous path... any thing short could mean losing your wife to another man.

Cat.