I'm sorry you feel like you are being attacked or dissed. I don't think that is the intent of the posters. Just because Marc called your relationship turbulent, don't take the worst definition of the word and assume he meant it in the worst way. By your own posts, I would have to say your relationship seems turbulent to me too. Not in a violent way, but certainly in a tumultuous way. That doesn't mean it will always be that way, but it seems to be that way at present.

One thing you should understans about this board. The people here will stand by you and support you. But don't expect everyone to always tell you only what you want to hear. By posting here, it's kind of assumed that you want feedback.

My post below may have been one of those that disturbed you. I'm sorry. But I have gone thru similar situations and have read about others who have also. And in many cases, the end result was a lot of pain. I'm not psychic, and am not totally familiar with your situation. So I certainly could be wrong. But I'm not going to just blow sunshine up your ass and say how happy I am for you if I think there might be pain along the path you are taking. I'm not accusing you of doing anything illegal. You don't have to be doing anything illegal to get hurt........badly. I've been there.

I get no joy from raining on your parade. I hope everything works out great. But I'm not going to lie to you when I have concerns. If you would prefer only positive feedback, just say so, and I will refrain from posting to you unless I have something positive to say.

Dakota