What I was referring to was that if a system was to be put in place that caught more rapists at the expense of the odd non-offender, I’d take it for the sake of the child. Now, you may still disagree with this.

You're right. I still disagree.

from what I understood of your response to my “what are the alternatives to grilling the child in a trial”, you are agreeing with #2 of my alternatives

No, I wasn't going with option 2. My point was that a kid should not be grilled as if HE was the offender. This happens all too often. Yes, they keep telling the kid that it isn't his fault, but what is a kid to think when they "interview" (grill) him for hours not letting him go home till he says what they want him to say? What is a kid to think when they behave as if what the offender did was not much less than murder, when in fact the kid may have enjoyed it on some level. The kid will be thinking that if he "got off" then HE must be really bad too. What is really sad is that although social services and law enforcement accuse molesters of being masters at manipulation and lies, THEY do a pretty darn good job of manipulation and lying themselves to get what they want.....a conviction. I find it interesting that they don't force a woman rape victim to testify, but they do force kids to testify.

Basically, a person who has been sexual with a child has made a mistake in my view. I understand that we differ on this

No difference of opinion here. I agree that being sexual with a child is a mistake. Sorry, I thought I made that clear.

I get mad because HE chose to hurt that child.

Most pedophiles that molest don't intend or "choose" to hurt the child. Yes, the action is a choice. But most pedophiles look at being sexual with a child as a way to show their love for him. I know that this is at the core of my attractions. Heck, if all I desired was to get my rocks off, there are a lot of ways to do that. But something inside me desires to be sexual with a child so I can be close to him and bring pleasure to him, much like the Bible talks about becoming "one flesh." Somehow, that "one flesh" desire got transfered to boys. my logical mind knows this isn't right, but my basic instinct still says that it is.

The main things I would change if I had the power are much like what Blackstone said. Stop treating the pedophile OR the molester like they are monsters. If society focused more on telling pedophiles that their desires must be resisted for the good of the child instead of just calling us all sick bastards, it would go a long way towards keeping kids safer. If they explained to the kid/victim that maybe the molester really does care for you but what he did was wrong and inapropriate, instead of insisting that the only thing the offender ever really wanted was to get in your pants and everything he did and said was to that aim, maybe the kids would feel better about themselves too.