I just end up looking like an idiot. Lol.

I hope you were kidding there. The "Lol" at the end makes me think you are. But if you aren't, then I want you to know that that is not what I think of you or your post at all.

I am a very unemotional person and unless I make a conscious effort to stop myself, I can easily ignore the feelings of the other person and act in an antagonistic or condescending way when debating something I have a strong opinion of. I need to stop myself from doing that more often, and I apologize because I realize I failed to do so this time.


But I for one cannot think of a better way to do things. I would be quite interested in the way that you have thought up but neglected to go into full details.

What I neglected to go into details about is a personal security policy. Indidivual parents would have to implement some version of it themselves. This is not something the government could or should do. It is something that individual parents and organizations should do.

What can the government do? The government can do two things. It can help prevent and it can help rehabilitate. I'll take them in reverse order.

The government needs to stop throwing people in jail and expecting them to learn to be productive members of society while separated from that society. They need to implement programs that give sex offenders the tools they need to live their lives responsibly once they get out. I don't believe that the current trend of Clockwork Orange styled aversion therapy is the key, but I'm willing to let the psychologists find the best solutions. These people need to be given the tools they need to do what all of us here have learned to do, to be masters of our domain (to borrow a phrase from Seinfeld).

The more important thing that needs to be done is the de-stigmatization of pedophilia and the elimination of mandatory reporting laws. If society wants to help prevent sexual abuse before it even happens, then it needs to de-stigmatize pedophilia.

As long as pedophiles are painted as monsters, ticking time bombs, predators, and all of these subhuman things, how many pedophiles do you think are going to seek help when they realize they have a problem? Add to this the mandatory reporting laws that force psychologists to inform the police when a pedophile comes out of the closet, and what do you get? You get an environment that discourages the people who really need help from going out to get it.

We don't need to be discouraging people who really need help from going out to get it, we need to be encouraging them. Unfortunately, this is the opposite of what society and the government do. They make it extremely difficult to accept that you have a problem, even more difficult to go to someone and admit that you are a monster, and almost impossible for you to do so for fear that they will be forced to turn you in.

We need to de-stigmatize pedophilia. Pedophiles should be able to say they are pedophiles as easily as someone who suffers from depression can say they suffer from depression. It shouldn't be any different. We need to be encouraging people who have a problem to go get help, not discouraging them from doing that.

Here is where we, the Christian BL Forum and the online BL movement as a whole come in. Despite the obstacles the government has put in our path with mandatory reporting laws and such. Despite the obstacles society has put in our path by demonizing pedophilia. We are here helping pedophiles deal with their sexual attractions in a responsible way.

I am not exagerating one bit when I say that if it were not for the online BL movement, I myself would most likely be in prison right now for molesting who knows how many children. It is this movement, these people, people like us, who convinced me that I'm not a monster no matter what society might say and that there are alternatives to living the life society expects people like me to live.

We, the BL movement, have great power. I think we oftentimes forget that, but it is true. Despite the obstacles society, the government, and wannabe vigilante groups throw at us, we are the ones really making a difference in this world when it comes to ending child sexual abuse perpetrated by pedophiles.

The online bl movement serves as a wonderful tool for countering the harm that the government and society are doing. Due to it's anonymity, it skirts the problems of mandatory reporting laws and the demonization of pedophilia. It affords pedophiles the opportunity to interact with others who can help them learn to deal with their feelings in a constructive and responsible way.

What do we need in order to stop pedophiles? We need people to understand that pedophiles are not monsters, they are not ticking time bombs, they are human beings like veryone else and they can learn to control their feelings and live responsible lives. In practical terms, the government needs to do away with scarlet letter laws and mandatory reporting laws, focus on rehabilitation of offenders, and work on educating people about the fact that pedophiles are not the demons the media might portray, but rather they are people who simply need to learn to channel their feelings in a positive direction.



I feel it is unfair to end this without pointing out that true pedophiles are not the ones who are committing most of the child sexual abuse. Most child sexual abuse is perpetrated by situational pedophiles; adults who preffer sexual partners their own age but who turn to children as partners in times of stress and usually under the influence of alcohol, drugs, or mental illnesses other than pedophilia. I focused on the true (prefferential) pedophiles because that is the focus of this website. But true pedophiles account for a minority of child sexual abuse.