Language is important to me. The labels we use to identify ourselves, whilst only labels, carry in a brief word (or words) concepts that give others a headstart on understanding who we are.

"Boylover" is a loaded label. I have read some various debates about what exactly it means, that range from men who sincerly and with the child's best interests at heart "love" boys to accusations of "all boylovers are child mollestors".

I have heard it said that a boylover loves all boys. Or at least 'boys' in general. To some degree I relate to that and in others I don't. Boys are certainly my sexual orientation, but I can't say that I 'love' all boys... or even that I love every boy I'm attracted to. I imagine I'm like most people and I love the people I know and care about, including the boys in my life.

But, if I step back from the boy for a moment and think about it.... What if a hetro male was to describe himself as a "womanlover" would I think that was appropriate? Sure he's attracted to women, and enjoys their company and even has an intimate relationship with one (or many even). But how would I take it if he called himself a "womanlover". For me it seems like a little too much focus in one direction. I think women who heard him describe himself in this way may have reason to pause and wonder what his agenda was.

Well I just want to put this out there for discussion. I don't have any solid conclusions to offer... just these thoughts for now.

Blessings Cat.