On the other hand the challenge of testing everything we think about a person by what others, including the person, would think is one that can be helpful; if we couldn't justify it to them, what are we doing thinking like that...

Thanks for the comments Eldad. You've explained it better than I could. Though I honestly don't KNOW whether others in heaven will know all of my thoughts, and it may well be, in the light of the fully-revealed Grace of God, that what I have thought in my life will become essentially insignificant to others ... I still find it helpful to consider my thoughts in this way. For me, it puts things in perspective.

Blessings,
Rainboy