we each have our preferences and we must accept what other people are , if different from our own. I personally have great affection for the younger , as i can 'mentor' and hopefully be a good role model. My relationship with my YF (10) is awesome in everyway for both of us. It is getting stronger by the month. Even his mom recognises that he adores me.
We came together through God's calling , as if we were meant to meet and be together. How blessed i feel when he is in my presence. I believe you should never go 'looking' for a special person, as if you are worthy , our loving father will take care of things - Gods timing is so perfect.

We each have our 'baggage' and our scars that sometimes only love can heal.

Good luck and be blessed

HFJ