hfj,
I totally understand your desire to have off board contact with people but I think you need to relax, calm down, and take thing much more slowly. Post for awhile, get to know people here before you worry about making contact with anyone off the forum. The way you have done it can make it look to some people like you are 'too eager' to get to know people. You may be a perfectly benign person but the people here have good reason to be paranoid. Hang around and participate and welcome to cblf.